Hey everyone, my article Date A Man Who Pursues Your Heart was published today on one of my favorite blogs, Know Your Value which is an extension of Wonderfully Made . Wonderfully Made is a ministry that I recently connected with and will be partnering with more in the future. They are a Christian-based 501c3 organization dedicated to helping today’s modern young women discover, strengthen, and reclaim their true value and worth. Through their college chapters, conferences, team of speakers and resources it is their desire to see our generation of girls rise up and live lives of lasting purpose, beauty and worth. I am so excited about all that God is doing through their ministry and so honored and excited to begin partnering with them. Here is an excerpt from my article and you can read the full article at this link.

“…After years of waiting for Mr. Right, a life shattering heartbreak or two and years of, what seems like, wasted time with Mr. Wrongs, it’s easy to give up. It’s easy to feel a sense of hopelessness when it comes to your own personal love story and to assume that love is only a fairy-tale for few, and that for whatever reason, you aren’t one of the few.

So instead of being patient and trusting God, you decide to settle. You go along with the cultural model of relationships- the model that says it’s okay for a man to get into your pants before he gets to know your heart, the model that says it’s okay for a man to show some pseudo form of love.

You go along with the type of “love” that uses your body without a whole life commitment. The type of “love” that makes promises that it can’t keep. The type of “love” that only dates you for what it can get.

In the moment, that can feel fulfilling, validating, and invigorating. It can even make you feel desired and loved. But the truth of the matter is: that is not love.

Perhaps it is a form of erotic love that craves the physical and convinces the individual of its desire. But that is not the agape love that healthy marriages are built on which drives a man to pursue a woman’s heart and make a whole life commitment to her, the love that we dreamed of as little girls and that our whole being aches for.

In spite of what our childhood dreams taught us, it is not meant to be a fairy-tale. Real life love will never look like Hollywood or a Disney movie. It is not void of pain, complication and trials. It is not easy. It is nothing like we imagined it would be. But just because it won’t be a fairy-tale doesn’t mean that it won’t be beautiful, epic and so worth the wait…”

Mandy Dobbelmann

Founder and editor of Forte E Bello. Mandy is writer, singer/songwriter, and music teacher with a love for life, people, adventure and living simply. She is passionate about using her gift for writing and music to be a voice for change.


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    Kevin Handes

    September 8, 2015

    Congratulations Mandy on being published on the blog Know Your Value. You are doing great work and hopefully more women will realize just how valuable you all are. When God created the universe he left the best to last… woman.
    God Bless!

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      Mandy Dobbelmann

      September 9, 2015

      Thanks so much Kevin!! God Bless!