The Only One Who Can Love You Perfectly

October 5, 2015 4 Comments

As I was driving home late the other night, I was listening to a song that has resonated deeply with me over the past week. As I listened I was reminded of a simple truth that I often forget. The lyric that resonated with me the most says simply,  “You don’t give your heart in pieces.” And then goes on to say…

Your love’s not fractured

It’s not a troubled mind

It isn’t anxious, it’s not the restless kind

Your love’s not passive

It’s never disengaged

It’s always present

It hangs on every word we say

Your love keeps its promises, it keeps its word

It honors what’s sacred, cause its vows are good

Your loves not broken

It’s not insecure

Your loves not selfish, your love is pure

You don’t give your heart in pieces

You don’t hide yourself to tease us

As I was listening to these words I began thinking of God’s pure and perfect love for us. I then started thinking about all of the times over the past several years that I’ve sought out this kind of love in relationships and have always come up short. In that moment I was reminded that it is because, as humans, we always love imperfectly. No man could ever love me in the way Christ loves me, just as I am incapable of loving any man perfectly. Of course we do our best to love as Christ first loved – we set that as our aim. But no matter our intentions, or how wildly and passionately we feel love for another, we always love imperfectly, because we are human.

And that is the beauty of Christ. He placed in us a deep longing for something that cannot be fulfilled by any person or thing on this earth. The only one that can fulfill it, is Him. It reminds me of the popular quote by C.S. Lewis that says,  If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world. If none of my earthly pleasures satisfy it, that does not prove that the universe is a fraud. Probably earthly pleasures were never meant to satisfy it, but only to arouse it, to suggest the real thing. If that is so, I must take care, on the one hand, never to despise, or to be unthankful for, these earthly blessings, and on the other, never to mistake them for the something else of which they are only a kind of copy, or echo, or mirage”

I love this, because it reminds us that even the the most wild, rapturous, passionate, and complete love that we could experience with an earthly lover on this earth is only a mirage of what’s to come. It is only a mirage of the kind of love that we can experience even today with our Savior. This should put everything into perspective. If you are married or in a relationship it is a reminder to stop looking to your significant other for something that only God can give, and for us singles it reminds us to stop searching for complete and perfect love in places that it can never be found. We serve a God that doesn’t give his heart in pieces as the world does, but instead pours His love out on us fully and freely. Then offers us the invitation daily to accept it or reject. So my prayer for you today is that you would receive the perfect, and complete love that God is offering to you and that you would allow it to transform the way you see yourself, the way you love others, and the way you live your life. That it would be so all fulfilling that you would stop running to lesser loves to try and fill that void in yourself. I have been so overcome lately by God’s all fulfilling love, that I truly want the whole world to experience it. Here is the song. I hope it is as much of a blessing to you all today as it has been to me. 


Mandy Dobbelmann

Founder and editor of Forte E Bello. Mandy is writer, singer/songwriter, and music teacher with a love for life, people, adventure and living simply. She is passionate about using her gift for writing and music to be a voice for change.


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    October 5, 2015

    This is beautiful and just what my heart needed to hear today. I don’t often comment but I faithfully follow your blog and am always so encouaged by your words. God uses you to speak to me– thank you for being His vessel!

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      Mandy Dobbelmann

      October 6, 2015

      Wow, thank you so much for sharing @Allie. I am so so glad to hear that this article was an encouragement and that you are impacted by the blog. I am so glad God is using it in your life! Best to you!

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    October 5, 2015

    I was once afraid of love.
    I was afraid to love, and afraid to allow myself to be loved
    Afraid that, in either case, I was inviting the potential of hurt, and that was just not a chance that I was willing to take.
    Christ, in his complete love….forever changed that in me…
    and in doing so, showed me what a selfish man I had been… witholding what God had given me, and not trusting in what he had laid upon the heart of others as provision for me.
    Never again!!!!!
    In my heart, I have realized that love, in it’s purest sense, is selfless, and in this, there is no reason to fear. Just as Christ loves me, I must love others.
    I thank God for you Mandy….and for your obedience.

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      Mandy Dobbelmann

      October 6, 2015

      Wow, this is beautiful Todd….and such an encouragement. Thanks so much for sharing!!